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How to Stop Being Trussed in a Trust that Doesn’t Serve

I had a horrifying dream a few nights ago, the kind that has you waking up to a pounding heart and still gripping the bedsheets. Nightmares are never pleasant but they do have value. Often they are the perfect way for our intuition or higher self to get our attention about something, especially if the issue is to do with us not trusting ourselves or something in life, or, with us placing our trust in the wrong thing. In fact my dream had a few universal wisdoms to offer on this subject…sage advice for anyone who struggles with knowing what to trust.

Before I share the dream, I should just say that as I went to sleep that night, I set an intention to receive guidance about the purchase of an online business course. The training was the type that uses a cookie-cutter approach to teach students to cookie-cutter their own marketing and sales process, and automate for a profitable online business. The investment was not cheap but a large chunk of me had started to convince myself that I really needed this course, even though I sensed it would entail doing activities I was not that interested to do.


It was great fodder for my dream producers, who got to work straight away:


With no time to yell a warning to my brother, who is ahead of me, I watch in horror as he steps into what he thinks is a lift (elevator) but what I already know is a disused and empty shaft that should not be entered. Panic-stricken, I know this will be the death of him. In the blink of an eye he plummets and disappears. With horror, I witness how he utters no scream and his body makes no sound as it falls. There is only silence. I race down to the bottom of the stairs and the end of the shaft. I find blood but no body. As I peer up the shaft, a boot flops without warning to the floor, a mangled foot still inside.


In one interpretation, the lift symbolises my business course but also the assumptions we can make. By that I mean our limiting assumptions about how we think life is, and what we think we have to do to compensate for believing the limiting stories we have about ourselves.

It points to the moral that we will often come undone when we blindly put the power for our success or happiness into things outside of ourselves which we assume will be our saviour or the magic solution to our problems. Often these things are empty.

It shows us that it does not serve to place our trust in those assumptions (e.g. ‘’I don’t have what I need within me to succeed’’). Nor does it support us to act on the strategies and actions these assumptions compel us to take (e.g. sign up to learn a guru’s way of doing it, or to seek ‘’the right way”).

And the message that is driven home is that we will not get the ‘’lift’’ or guarantee from these things that we hope for. In fact, we will more likely experience the very things happening that we were trying to avoid in the first place (e.g. failing, or falling).

This is because following someone else’s rigid template for how to live life or do our business is unlikely to bring our uniqueness to the world in the most magical, aligned and bountiful of ways. It minimises what is possible for us. What’s more, we risk losing our unique expression and way in which to bring forth our gifts, a way that can only be created by us, a way that unfolds within us and will then move on out from inside us in right timing.


So instead of powering our limiting assumptions, we must place our power in intuition, higher knowing, and our inherent creative spirit connected to everything at once.

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It will take vulnerability.

It will require an open heart.

It will demand courage to action only that wisdom.

And it will also take what the second meaning of the dream points to:


That to take flight in life asks for your willingness to step into the void, into the not-knowing, where there are no rigid templates for how to do things or how to be, and no cast iron structures to clamp or box us in a false sense of security. 


Only by being in that black hole, can we birth and take creations out into the world in the most genuine and true way for us. And as we step into that void, into that seeming emptiness and nothingness where there are no manuals or guidebooks, we must be willing to die to all our fears of failing or falling or not surviving. We must be willing to die to our limiting beliefs and assumptions about ourselves, about who others are, how it is here, and what we believe we need to do to cope with all that.

And as we dare to die that death, know that it doesn’t end in a boot with a mangled foot in it.

Because as a quote I saw only yesterday assures:


For a star to be born there is one thing that must happen;
A gaseous nebula must collapse.
So collapse.
Crumble.
This is not your destruction.
This is your birth.    


What about you: In what assumptions are you still trussed? Where is life calling you to step into and trust the void – and what is emerging from that for you? I’d love to hear.

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